We had hoped that we would be able to “slip softly into the night” so to speak, but we have been flooded with well wishes and questions.

As mush as we would love to answer all of the emails individually we felt it best use this method in hopes it would answer all the questions and stave off any future emails.

• Yes the quad has dissolved. It no longer has the form of two cross coupled marriages
• Yes Big is seeking open
• No, it isn’t what Fix, Goddess and Temptress want
• Yes Fix, Goddess and Temptress are still “together”. Although not as one would think. Goddess needs love and support from us right now. So Fix and I feel it best for her if we step back and support her as she needs and not as we would wish it to be.
• No we aren’t tearing the family apart. We realize how detrimental it would be for the children to be split up. This information comes diretly from the family therapist. We will continue to live togehter and raise our chidlren together. In the end it is always about the children and what is best for them. The wishes of the adults need toi take a back seat.
• No, we won’t be writing in the near future. While we would love to continue our writing at some point, neither Goddess nor myself, who have been the primary authors of our blogs, have the emotional energy to continue our writing.  Also, both of us are now pursuing full time employment to offset the newest financial needs. And all of our available time and energy needs to be focused on our children and home.
• No, Fix, Goddess and Temptress won’t be attending any of the local meet-ups. Even though we enjoyed them immensely and we cherish the friendships we have made, it is to difficult to attend when our focus of the meetings is so very different than that of Big. And it would be wrong of us to place our friends in the middle of our domestic disagreement.

Thank you all again for all of the warm wishes and virtual hugs we do so appreciate them.

Once again, we bid you good-bye… until we meet again.

OPL

Dear Friends and Readers,

So much has happened in Our Poly Life the last three and a half years.  Inevitably, “it was the best of times, it was the worst of times” has come to be truth more so than we ever predicted.

Originally began as a place where we could share our thoughts, feelings, and experiences as we tread the poly waters we wanted the OPL site to expose all of what poly had to offer, both good and the not so good. 

When our life was amazingly positive, posting came easy and there was so much to share.  But as times became more difficult we realized how honesty, especially when tainted by perspective, can complicate the already messy facts of life.

It is with a heavy heart that we have chosen to step away from the blog. So many changes over the last 2 years have finally taken it’s toll. We just don’t have the heart to post as we once did, and rather than allow our blog to languish in our lack of use we are goign to step back, regroup and find the peace and joy in life that we seem to have lost.

We plan to leave the blog up for posterity, so please feel free to wade thru the archives and the good times.

Thank you all for your readership and your loyalty.

Temptress and Goddess